In response to lacey g?

First off, i didnt mean to imply that you thought all fathers are bad. but i want to point something out to you. when i was a little girl, my mom and dad divorcd. becuz my mom didnt have any money she had to make the decision to give up custody to her parents. and all i ever heard when i was a kid was how my dad didnt love me, he could have helped out more, etc. so i do kno what my stepdaughter is going thru, when one parent villianizes the other. the poor kids are the ones who have to be stuck in the middle. as far as the blame part, i agree with you about chldren taking the blame for their own actions. but she wont. she wants to blame everyone else or why her life is such a mess as it is. she chose that, and therefore shouldnt be bringing up thing s from the past or taking her perosnal issues out on her dad. bur again her mother is to blame for a lot of reasons why my stepdaughter got in trouble. She enabled her to skip school, let her see her boyfrien anytime, but more importantly, her mother is the reason why my stepdaughter and her father are not doing too good. Because my stepdaughter keeps bringing up lies that was told to her as a child, regarding her dad. in that instance, the hurt she feels and anger, is because of what her mohter has told her. why else would she keep bringing up things that arent even true about her dad, when she's old enough now that she needs to focus on raising our granddaughter and and taking care of her house. we just found out last week that her mother was telling her that her dad never wanted her, etc. now why would a 40 yr old woman continue to act tha way? i finally figured it out, when my stepdaughter and her boyfriend moved just a few blocks from us. my husband did a lot or work the new apt, and he and her were getting along just fine. but her mother got jealous, and so now she's trying to manipulate the relationship between dad and daughter, becuase she couldnt stand to see them have a good relationship. her mother has alot of jealousy, and anger toward my husbands relationship with their daughter. and she uses my stepdaughter against her own dad. im just saying if she's gonna place any blame on anyone, it should be herself and her mother. but not her dad. she's a mess right now and alot of it comes from her mother. she even admitted it to me one time, how her mother was mean and neglectful of her. even the courts declared her an unfit mother, and my husband was granted custody, and becuz mom appealed it, by the time we went back to court, my stepdaughter had just turned 18 . so again, her dad lost out. and he's so angry withher right now because she keeps bringing up what her mom says, and my husband finally told her,that if she wanted the recorded and court doc proving how much more he wanted to be with her, she refused and just said "im gonna believe my mom, no matter what" so my husband has not talked to her since, it hurt him so bad. so give me more input on this if you want. i'd be interested in getting a fresh perspective on this